Three Steps to Reducing Your Body Checking Behaviors

Body checking is a safety-seeking behavior driven by anxiety and worry about one’s appearance. Body checking manifests in many different ways: lifting up your shirt to see your stomach in the mirror; pinching, poking or measuring your body; tugging your shirt away from your belly; obsessing about how you look as you walk past every store window. The intention of body checking is driven by a hope that if we “check” the body and feel content with it, our anxiety will decrease and we will feel “safe” in terms of our body image.

Even though the urge behind body checking is driven by a hope to reduce anxiety, it often does the opposite by acting as a trigger for body-oriented or disordered eating thoughts. When we body check, we are giving our brain a signal to think more about how we look, and unfortunately those thoughts are typically not positive. Body checking becomes particularly problematic when it becomes compulsive and consuming of our brain space and time.

How to reduce your body checking:

  1. Bring awareness to your body checking behaviors. Start to notice when you are body checking, how you are body checking, and what triggers your urge to body check.

  2. Work on actively resisting the urge to body check - this might mean:

    • challenging yourself not to look at your reflection in store windows

    • covering your mirror until the urges feel more manageable

    • writing a self-affirmation on your mirror that reminds you that your body is worthy and good

    • wearing a fidget ring or bracelet and directing your anxious energy towards them when feeling the urge to body check

    The less we give in to the urge to body check, the less we will eventually want to body check.

  3. Notice when your urges to body check reduce and acknowledge your success. Allow yourself to appreciate what it feels like to have less of your brain space taken up by body image thoughts.

Movement for All Bodies

Movement can be joyful. Movement can be challenging. Movement can feel wonderful, and movement can feel triggering - especially when we don’t feel like our bodies belong. 

Movement for all bodies

We know, in no uncertain terms, that moving our bodies improves both our physical and mental health. Unfortunately, the majority of the fitness industry doesn’t make every body feel welcome. Not dissimilar to the fashion industry, fitness is missing out on a major population of people who would be eager to engage if there were services that fit their needs. This includes people who live in larger bodies, who have differing levels of ability, who are recovering from eating disorders or disordered relationships with exercise, or who otherwise don’t feel welcome due to their race, religion, gender, sexual orientation or financial background.  

Luckily, there is a small (growing?) corner of the fitness community that does in fact try to make all bodies and abilities feel welcome.  I often get requests for ideas on where to look if fitness feels intimidating or unwelcoming. I have compiled a list of options that I am familiar with for anyone interested in exploring movement in a flexible way - not a punishing, “I have to change my body” kind of way.

All resources below have online options for engaging in fitness. Budget-friendly tip: most of these instructors either have free content on their websites and social media and/or offer free trials of their programs. I will try to continue to update the list as I learn of more resources.

Yoga: 

The Underbelly Yoga & Wellness with Jessamyn Stanley: “Vison: To create and foster a community for everyone, including those who have ever felt overlooked, underserved and left out by the wellness industry. To empower you to show up and take up space. Define and achieve wellness in a way that makes sense for you.” https://theunderbelly.com/ 

Full Being Yoga with Dana Falsetti: “Dana Falsetti is a white, fat, non-binary, disabled person, a speaker, writer, and the founder of Fullbeing. At 22 they started traveling and teaching yoga workshops in person and online with the intention of reaching those who felt othered because of how their bodies are treated and seen.”   https://fullbeingyoga.com/dana-falsetti-classes/

More to Love Yoga with Rachel Estapa: “Rachel Estapa, founder and CEO of More to Love, is passionate about empowering people to love and appreciate their bodies. Her own path to body acceptance began many years ago. After yo-yo dieting throughout her teenage years and into adulthood, Rachel took stock of her life and realized she wasn’t happy. Even when she reached her “goal weight,” she felt something was missing. That’s when she decided she would stop trying to change her body and instead she would focus on loving the body she has.” https://www.moretoloveyoga.com/

Pilates and Strength Building: 

The Be.come Project with Bethany C. Meyers: “the be.come project is a subscription-based fitness platform built on the idea of bringing inclusivity, approachability and body-neutrality to the fitness world.” https://thebecomeproject.com/  

Hybrid Calisthenics with Hampton Liu: “... the true revelation may be that physical exercise itself has applications beyond building strength, gaining muscle, and losing fat. Because these goals are so popular, there is a seemingly endless supply of products and educational content to help people achieve them. However, there are applications beyond this. Hybrid Calisthenics is the initiative to help people better their lives and achieve unconventional goals.” https://www.instagram.com/hybrid.calisthenics/?hl=en

Kara Duval Pilates: “I love to celebrate my body for what it can do opposed to what I think it should. You will quickly find that my teaching philosophy is the complete embodiment of this.”  https://www.karaduvalpilates.com/  *Bonus: Kara is open about her own journey of recovery from disordered eating and body image after years spent dancing ballet. 

Dance & Aerobics: 

The Fitness Marshall: “Hailed as the modern day Richard Simmons meets Britney Spears, The Fitness Marshall is the internet's favorite fitness pop star delivering non-stop, easy to follow dances to his 5 million followers across social media. Caleb along with his two Backup Booties welcome and celebrate every age, size, ability, color, and gender expression. No matter where you are in your journey, you have a place with them on the dance floor.” https://thefitnessmarshall.org/ 

Curves with Moves by Jessie Diaz-Herrera: “Diaz-Herrera now teaches in NYC and structures her classes to suit all body types and dance levels. Not your typical dance class, she ensures that the environment is judgment free, incorporating body positive talk and affirmations during the sessions to make her students feel comfortable at any dance level. Her mission is not to just teach dance but to empower her students to learn how to love their bodies through dance.” https://www.curveswithmoves.com/ 

Personal Training & Pole Dancing with Roz the Diva: “Come as you are. I'm a dark skin, semi-bald, overweight, outspoken woman who runs around NYC half naked. I'm also a proud ally of the LGBTQ+ community; I'm already a fan of your religion; your disabilities don't scare me; the only race I see is pizza. Unless you're a total douche bag, we're already BFFs.” https://www.rozthediva.com/ 

Source: Photo by Polina Tankilevitch: ...

Online Eating Disorder Recovery Support during COVID 19

*Updated November 25, 2020

We are now experiencing the global impact of COVID 19. The recommendation from the CDC is to stay at home and self-quarantine in order to “flatten the curve” and save the most vulnerable in our society from contracting the virus. While social distancing is the right thing to do, it proves challenging for our mental health.

Therapeutic & community supports help many in their journey to eating disorder recovery. Luckily, with the virtual capabilities available today “social distancing” does not have to mean complete social isolation during COVID 19.

Many therapists, including myself, are offering virtual therapy in lieu of being able to meet in-person. If you or someone you know could benefit from virtual therapy during this time, please reach out to me at monique@moniqueblmhc.com.

Additionally, here are a few online resources that I have been informed of for those struggling with eating disorders and their loved ones. (I will continue to update this blog post if I hear of further online resources.)

The Eating Disorders Foundation

EDF is offering a range of virtual support groups including an eating disorder support group for those ages 30+ and a men’s eating disorder recovery support group. Find more info here: https://www.eatingdisorderfoundation.org/get-help/support-groups/

Multi-Service Eating Disorders Association

MEDA is a local Massachusetts nonprofit organization that supports people struggling with eating disorders as well as their families. They are currently offering both free and paid online support groups. They also host a family and loved ones support group that is always free.

They also offer recovery-oriented content and instagram live interviews on their instagram account.

Instagram Live Meal Support

@covid19eatingsupport is offering free, live “100% Health at Every Size meal support every hour starting at 8am EDT & going around the clock so you can eat your meals & snacks in the company of others!”

The Alliance for Eating Disorders

The Alliance for Eating Disorders is a non-profit supporting those struggling with eating disorders and their families.

The Alliance is offering free virtual support check-ins, one for family members of those struggling and one for those working on eating disorder recovery themselves.

The Alliance also offers helpful instagram live sessions and recovery-oriented content on their instagram account.


Free Online Support Groups offered by Treatment Centers

ED Support Group by Alsana 

Family Support Group by Alsana

Center for Discovery is offering the following free & paid support groups virtually both for alumni and community members.

Eating Recovery Center is offering a wide range of support groups including meal support groups that are open to ERC alumni as well as community members. Find more info here: https://www.eatingrecoverycenter.com/alumni/virtual-support/online-support-groups 

Nalgona Positivity Pride

Nalgona Positivity Pride offers a series of lectures and workshops virtually - open to all, but more specifically focused to support BIPOC struggling with body image and/or disordered eating.


What does daily self-care really look like?

The idea of self-care can seem amorphous and confusing. We readily associate self-care with vacations or spa days. However, we can forget that even the simplest forms of self-care can be restorative and worked into our everyday life. 

To help conceptualize this idea, imagine we are all only given so many units of energy to spend every day. The units slowly deplete throughout the day, but luckily we can gain units back through self-care. 

For example, let’s say we start each day with 25 units: 

image.jpg
  • Starting the day after a poor night of sleep: - 1 unit 

  • Commuting to work in traffic: - 3 units

  • Listening to an entertaining podcast during the commute: + 1 unit 

  • Giving a presentation at work: - 4 units 

  • Taking a 15 minute coffee break with your favorite type of latté: + 1 unit

  • Replying to work emails: - 2 units 

  • Answering difficult client calls: - 4 units 

  • Lunch away from the desk: + 1 unit

  • Meeting with boss: - 2 units 

  • Post-work yoga class: + 3 units

  • Commuting home again in traffic: - 3 units 

  • Making dinner (depending on how you feel about cooking): - 2 units 

  • Listening to your favorite music while cooking: + 1 unit

  • Having a positive conversation with your roommate or partner: + 1 unit 

  • Doing after-dinner dishes: - 2 units

  • Finishing laundry: - 2 units

  • Taking a long shower or bath with your favorite candle lit: + 1 unit

By the end of this day, we would have depleted all 25 units of our energy. Fortunately, we worked in simple self-care activities that helped us gain back 9 units of energy. We feel tired but not completely drained. 

When we end everyday completely drained, we have to start borrowing units from the next day so that every day we are starting with less and less units to expend. This is how we end up totally exhausted and vulnerable to utilizing coping mechanisms that tempt us with instant gratification for stress reduction: drinking, smoking, bingeing, restricting, etc. 

They may say an “apple a day can keep the doctor away”, but I say “daily self-care makes you a lot less vulnerable to unhealthy coping mechanisms”. Not as catchy but just as important. 

10 New Year’s Resolutions that do not Include Weight Loss for 2020

We see it every year. The “New Year, New You” messaging: covering the magazines at every grocery checkout lane, filling our inboxes with promotional emails, and splattered across our social media feeds. It is hard to miss (or avoid) from December 1 to February 1. 

The new year is a time where we tell ourselves “this year I am really going to get it together”, and often those words are synonymous with a fantasy of changing our bodies in some way. We  may dream that losing weight, bulking up, or “getting more toned” will bring us the confidence and happiness that we have been desperately searching for. What we forget to remember in that fantasy is that thinness does not equal happiness and the perfect body does not mean the perfect life. 

Meaning, connection, and enjoyable experiences attract positivity, happiness, and confidence into our lives. So instead of choosing a New Year’s resolution focused on changing your body this year,  why not focus on taking positive action of another form?

 Here are some ideas: 

  1. Try a new hobby 

  2. Volunteer for a cause you care about 

  3. Help campaign for a 2020 candidate you support 

  4. Revive an old friendship

  5. Take a trip to somewhere you have been wanting to visit 

  6. Meet your neighbors 

  7. Decrease your screen time

  8. Ask your crush out on a date (or if you are attached, schedule a regular date night with your significant other) 

  9. Spend more time in nature 

  10. Complete a home project 

Happy New Year Y’all! May 2020 bring you true connection and joy.  

Why I Have a Problem with the New Weight Loss App for Kids

Weight Watchers rebranded last year to “WW”, which was smart branding on their part because old school diets such as Jenny Craig or Nutrisystem are no longer as popular as they once were. Now, we are sold the idea that we can be better, more moral people not by “dieting” but by “eating clean” or “eating whole”, but we fail to see that these “lifestyles” are another version of a diet repackaged and tied up with a new, more green bow. 

Kurbo.png


What better way to attract us millennials, the lovers of environmentalism, yoga, & self-care, than by convincing us that drinking a green juice or eating an avocado toast, will bring us closer to enlightenment (or at least the “yoga body” that makes people think we look enlightened). And through this all, some company somewhere is making a lot of money. The diet industry was projected to be worth $70 billion in 2018 and that amount is only projected to keep rising with time. 


Speaking of companies looking to make money off our country’s obsession with weight loss, WW has created a new weight loss app for children, called Kurbo.

While I hate that adults have to struggle with diet culture, thinking about young kids being exposed to a weight loss app like Kurbo makes me very, very sad. 


As a therapist who specializes in eating disorders, I can tell you that I have been receiving more and more requests to see kids, ages 12 and under, who are struggling with eating disorders of their own. I have had the experience of visiting a treatment center and seeing a child, that could not have been more than 10 years old, sitting in the audience of my presentation. 


If you’re unfamiliar with eating disorder treatment, when a person  has an eating disorder that is appropriate for a residential or inpatient level of care, that means that person has to live at the facility 24/7. For a child, this means that they have to spend the night, every night, away from their parents, their siblings, their family pet, their favorite books and blanket and live instead with the other patients and staff at the treatment center. Of course, parents and families can visit, but when I think about how scared I was to even go to summer camp as a kid, I can only imagine how terrifying it must be for a young child to have to go to treatment. 


Do you know where most eating disorders start? They start with a diet. Not all dieters develop eating disorders, but for the people that might be genetically predisposed or predisposed via their environment, a simple diet can trigger the thought process that develops into an eating disorder. So why would we sign our children up for a weight loss app that introduces them to the thoughts and behaviors associated with eating disorders? Why would we pay $69 a month for our children to have online coaching to learn what foods are “good” and “bad”, or in Kurbo’s case “yellow”, “red” and “green”? 

I do not expect diet culture to go away any time soon. We can bet that our children will hear about which foods are “good” or “bad” even if we refrain from using that language in our own households. If we want our children to learn to have a healthy relationship with food, why not encourage them to learn instead about tuning into their bodies. We can help them figure out what types of foods make their bodies feel good, that give them energy to play and study and all that good stuff that comes with childhood. And most importantly, why not teach our children that they are loved regardless of what they look like and help them build the self-confidence they need to live in this image-focused world? I do not want another company to profit off our children feeling bad about themselves. 

To learn more about the controversy surrounding the Kurbo app, check out this article from Refinery29:https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2019/08/240564/ww-weight-watchers-kids-diet-program-kurbo-controversy

To learn more about what to do if you are afraid your child is going to be fat, see this blog by eating disorder expert, Beth Mayer, LICSW: https://more-love.org/2017/02/24/for-parents-who-are-afraid-that-their-kid-is-going-to-be-fat-an-interview-with-beth-mayer/


A Poem on Body Image by Hollie Holden

Today I asked my body what she needed, 

Which is a big deal 

Considering my journey of 

Not Really Asking That Much. 

Body Love Heart

I thought she might need more water. 

Or protein. 

Or greens. 

Or yoga. 

Or supplements. 

Or movement. 


But as I stood in the shower

Reflecting on her stretch marks, 

Her roundness where I would like flatness, 

Her softness where I would like firmness,

All those conditioned wishes 

That form a bundle of Never-Quite-Right-Ness, 

She whispered very gently: 

Could you just love me like this?

~Written by Hollie Holden, 2016

ED's Promise of Control

“It's funny, in a human kind of way, how we can convince ourselves that we're in control at the very moment we are beginning to lose it.”

William C. Moyers


Eating disorders promise control.

Can’t control your family dysfunction? You can control your weight instead.

Can’t keep your partner from leaving you? You can get your 18 year old body back.

Can’t prevent you and your loved ones from getting sick? You can “clean” up your eating.

control.jpg


At first, you do in fact feel in control, like you are putting your life in order. But who is really in control when you feel compelled to workout for hours a day, restrict your diet to the point of no longer being able to eat at a restaurant or always follow a dessert with a rush of punitive, hateful thoughts toward yourself?


When we are in the midst of an eating disorder, we feel as if we are in control. We are praised for our “will power” by outsiders but inside our brain is being controlled, not by us, but by the disorder itself, ED. ED has the power to  completely consume our life until everything we once enjoyed feels distant and gray and only ED feels important.


It may seem foreign at first to believe that you are in fact not your eating disorder and that it is possible to reconnect to you, the true healthy you. However, with the proper support, you can begin to develop an awareness of which of your thoughts and behaviors are driven by ED. You can begin to understand how these thoughts and behaviors have helped you cope. With that understanding, you can distance yourself from ED’s voice. You will then have the space to start making your own choices - choices of recovery, not the eating disorder’s choices. Instead of reacting and acting upon every demand of the eating disorder (“You must get to the gym; You must not eat carbs; You must not gain weight.”) you can begin to take back control from the eating disorder by making choices in line with your true values.  Values like being a good friend, being kind (to yourself and others), being honest, etc. When you have the ability to make your own choices, it will then be you who is control of your life, not ED.

Tips for Talking to your Doctor about their Weight Stigma and your Eating Disorder

I often hear from clients that they are afraid to go to the doctor’s office. I don’t blame them when I hear their stories: The doctor told them they were eligible for gastric bypass surgery (even though they had not asked about it and have an active eating disorder); They had a heart rate in the low 40’s and the doctor told them they were perfectly healthy (even though they had a BMI of 17 and an active eating disorder); They went to the doctor’s for a sinus infection and the doctor told them they need to lose weight. The list goes on…

However, it remains important to receive medical care. Although we wish the medical community understood more about eating disorders, we unfortunately have to learn to be our own best advocates until the medical community catches up.

rawpixel-602152-unsplash.jpg

Here are MEDA’s 5 tips for speaking to your doctor about their weight stigma and/or your eating disorder:

  1. Don’t be intimidated: Remember, doctors are just people who have gone to medical school. Yes, they have spent years studying the human body, but that does not mean that they are perfect, all-knowing beings. Even though eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness (Smink et al, 2012), a 2014 national survey found that out of 637 internal medicine, pediatric, family medicine, psychiatry, and child and adolescent psychiatry programs, 514 did not offer any scheduled or elective rotations for eating disorders (Mahr et al, 2015).

  2.  Use your Voice: Doctors are often overbooked, overworked, and rushing to the next appointment. We all know the overwhelming feeling that comes from listening to your doctor rapidly firing off questions while simultaneously directing you to stick out your tongue, say “ahh”, take deep breaths, cough three times, undress, redress, on and on. It may seem impolite to interrupt this process to ask your own questions, but you deserve to be heard, especially when it comes to your health. Speak up and express your questions and concerns about your care and your body until you feel satisfied with the information you have received. It is not your fault that you have an eating disorder. It is a serious mental illness that deserves appropriate care, and you may need to be very upfront with your doctors regarding your ED. Learning to use your voice is an important part of eating disorder recovery - think of it as an opportunity to practice.

  3. Confidence is Key: It’s a natural response to respect a person of authority’s opinion, but you are the expert on yourself. If something doesn’t feel right, let the doctor know, including when you feel dismissed. For example, if not seeing your weight is helpful for your recovery, tell the doctor and medical staff directly. If they happen to let that information slip, bring it to their attention. If you feel like your doctor is dismissing your condition due to your body size or eating disorder diagnosis, tell them. Doctors take the Hippocratic oath to “do no harm”. It may be uncomfortable, but if their comment or behavior harmed you, you can let them know. By educating your doctor on how they made you feel, you may be saving another patient from a similar experience.

  4. Come Prepared: Have you created a plan with your treatment team for how you will handle your doctor’s appointments? Have you done research of your own on a suspected condition? Bring this information with you. Write your questions and symptoms down in advance. Bring along a friend or loved one if you need support. When you are prepared, you will be less likely to panic and forget your questions. If you have literature to share with your doctor about eating disorders, weight stigma, or any other condition, share it with your doctor and express how important it is to you that they consider the information. They may not have had a chance to learn about these topics in their medical training.

  5. Connect them to MEDA: MEDA offers free trainings to the medical community on eating disorders and weight stigma. If you feel like your doctor could benefit from a training, connect them to MEDA at education@medainc.org or at 617-558-1881.

Resources to bring to your doctor’s office on eating disorders and weight stigma:

Citations:

Mahr, F. , Farahmand, P. , Bixler, E. O., Domen, R. E., Moser, E. M., Nadeem, T. , Levine, R. L. and Halmi, K. A. (2015), A national survey of eating disorder training. Int. J. Eat. Disord., 48: 443-445. doi:10.1002/eat.22335

Smink, F. E., van Hoeken, D., & Hoek, H. W. (2012). Epidemiology of eating disorders: Incidence, prevalence and mortality rates. Current Psychiatry Reports,14(4), 406-414.

This blog was originally published at https://www.medainc.org/tips-talking-doctor-weight-stigma-eating-disorder/ and is republished here with permission.

Sugar addiction - is it real or not?

MEDA recently held an exhibit at a local high school’s annual wellness fair. A woman approached our table and expressed concern that we were giving out lollipops. She thought it was wrong for us to be giving out an addictive substance (sugar) to high schoolers, especially when MEDA promotes recovery from eating disorders.

plush-design-studio-483118-unsplash.jpg

So the question is – is giving out sugar to high schoolers akin to giving them recreational drugs? Is sugar, specifically, an addictive substance?

To answer this question, we first have to define addiction. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fifth Edition, no longer utilizes the term “addiction”. Instead, the DSM 5 outlines Substance Use Disorders – Mild, Moderate, and Severe for each class of substance (Note, food and sugar are not on the list of addictive substances). Substance Use Disorders are defined as:

“…when the recurrent use of alcohol and/or drugs causes clinically and functionally significant impairment, such as health problems, disability, and failure to meet major responsibilities at work, school, or home. According to the DSM-5, a diagnosis of substance use disorder is based on evidence of impaired control, social impairment, risky use, and pharmacological criteria.” (SAMHSA, 2015)

Therefore one way in which we can define a problematic substance use disorder is the way in which the substance is affecting our daily functioning.

I can say that I have worked with clients struggling with binge eating disorder (BED) or bulimia whose binge-food of choice involves a heavy dose of sugar. Rightfully so, these clients feel their behaviors involving sugary foods are getting in the way of their everyday lives. However, I have also worked with clients who binge on vegetables and report a similar experience. Furthermore, I have worked with many clients struggling with all types of eating disorders whose fear of sugar, flour, or wheat negatively affects their daily functioning. The restriction of sugar further limits the foods they can eat and often the social interactions they can participate in (hello, birthday cake!). Unfortunately, mainstream media and diet culture propagate the idea that sugar is the new gateway drug to complete loss of control with food.

So is it the sugar or our relationship to sugar that is addictive?

In a study published in Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews (2008), “Evidence for sugar addiction: behavioral and neurochemical effects of intermittent, excessive sugar intake”, researchers hypothesized that sugar has the potential to be an addictive substance. The study found that “Based on the observed behavioral and neurochemical similarities between the effects of intermittent sugar access and drugs of abuse, we suggest that sugar, as common as it is, nonetheless meets the criteria for a substance of abuse and may be ‘addictive’ for some individuals when consumed in a ‘binge-like’ manner. (Avena, N. M., Rada, P., & Hoebel, B. G., 2008).   This study, conducted on rats, involved depriving the rats of food for 12 hours at a time and then giving them access to a sugar solution. When finally given access to sugar, the rats would binge.  I hypothesize that the rats would probably binge on any edible object after being deprived of nutrients for 12 hours. The study by Avena et. al. also admitted that it was not able to conclude whether or not a rat would endure pain or face physical obstacles in order to continue to self-administer sugar as rats have done in previous studies involving cocaine (Deroche-Gamonet et al., 2004).

Another study published in Clinical Nutrition“The plausibility of sugar addiction and its role in obesity and eating disorders” concluded that “there is no support from the human literature for the hypothesis that sucrose may be physically addictive or that addiction to sugar play a role in eating disorders” (Benton, 2010). Based on these studies, the research indicates that there is no evidence to support that sugar is physically addictive in humans. There is research that indicates sugar may be addictive for rats only when consumed in a binge-like manner (Avena et al, 2008), which further implies that it could be the binge behavior, not necessarily the substance, that is addictive.

Although I am not a researcher nor have I done an extensive review of all the literature on sugar addiction,  I can speak anecdotally from the experiences my clients have shared with me. What I hear time and again from clients is that their eating disorder is “about the food but not about the food”. The eating disorder is about the feeling or lack thereof that comes from engaging in an eating disorder behavior: the numbness, the distraction, the dissociation, the comfort.  So often it is not the sugar or the actual food (although, let’s be real, sugary, starchy foods often taste better than other foods) that feels impossible to let go of, it is the cycle of bingeing and restricting/purging that acts like a whirlpool.

After all, a binge can be a maladaptive form of self-care: the only time my client has to be alone; the only time my client chooses what they want to do, not what someone else tells them to do; the only time my client feels grounded.  When food has been your primary coping mechanism for years, of course it is hard to let go of that dysfunctional relationship. The point is, the behavior is addictive, not the sugar. 

We need food to survive. Food gives us energy, pleasure, and something to bond over. I hypothesize that if we did not demonize the way in which food can alter the human form to be outside our society’s current acceptable body size, and if we did not label foods as good or bad (resulting in people feeling morally good or bad based on their food choices), we would be able to have a much more balanced relationship with sugar and food in general.

Everyone wants the forbidden fruit when we are told it is forbidden. When we are told we can’t have sugar, we want it even more. For some people, restricting a certain food group could be helpful in their recovery, and I am in full support of people finding what works for them in eating disorder or addiction recovery. However, I have also seen the nasty underbelly of what happens when someone “falls of the wagon” and starts to eat sugar, flour or wheat again after a period of restriction = shame, embarrassment, guilt and feeling like a failure. This pattern is the same binge-restrict cycle that clients have struggled with in the past but stretched over a longer period of time.

The alternative philosophy we support at MEDA is that “all foods fit” and that the foods you eat have nothing to do with your moral worth. We find that when people can step outside the black and white thinking that diet culture prescribes, previous binge-foods no longer seem like forbidden fruit. Clients can then begin to take steps toward listening to their body and eating intuitively, which might mean having a lollipop and might mean having a salad. Healthy eating is flexible eating.

 

Citations:

Avena, N. M., Rada, P., & Hoebel, B. G. (2008). Evidence for sugar addiction: Behavioral and neurochemical effects of intermittent, excessive sugar intake. Neuroscience and Biobehavioral Reviews32(1), 20–39. http://doi.org/10.1016/j.neubiorev.2007.04.019

Benton, D. (2010). The plausibility of sugar addiction and its role in obesity and eating disorders. Clinical Nutrition29(3), 288-303. https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/6bd7/13a6a6d028a4471cbef1c75597f1379dc6c8.pdf

Deroche-Gamonet V, Belin D, Piazza PV. Evidence for addiction-like behavior in the rat. Science.2004;305:1014-1017. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2235907/#R55

This blog was originally published at https://www.medainc.org/sugar-addiction-is-it-real-or-not/ and is republished here with permission.

4 Tips for Making it Through the Holidays Binge-Free

For many, Halloween means dressing up in a silly costume, taking the kids in your life trick-or-treating, and marathon watching Stranger Things and for most, Halloween involves in some way, shape, or form a big bowl of candy.

rawpixel-800841-unsplash.jpg

For people struggling with Binge Eating Disorder (BED), Halloween can mark the start of a 2-month long holiday obstacle course with a finish line of January 2nd: navigating an alternate path past the CVS candy aisle, trudging through family and work holiday get-togethers, hurdling over Thanksgiving, Christmas, & New Years with a final face-off against the January 1st“New Year, New you!” weight-loss ads.

This obstacle course takes a heck of a lot of endurance especially if all the while you’re trying to steadily hold your progress in BED recovery like your own Olympic torch – never to be dropped, never to be extinguished, and held high with pride. Don’t be surprised if your metaphorical arm gets tired…It’s not easy to run with a fiery torch in your hand!

All jokes aside, here are some tips for maintaining your progress in BED recovery through the holiday season (You CAN do this!):

  • Meet yourself where you’re at: You might be at a place in your recovery where you can attend all of the holiday functions and benefit from exposing yourself to former binge-foods while remaining binge-free. You may also be at a point in your recovery where being surrounded by holiday delicacies is not manageable for you. Be honest with yourself: do you need to avoid the candy aisle? Do you need to set a limit for how long you can stay at your work’s Christmas lunch? Either way – It’s OKAY!

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Yes, every time I say “Self-Compassion” in my BED support group, I hear a resounding group sigh. I get it! Self-Compassion is NOT easy, but is the cure to shame and self-judgement. If you slip-up and have a binge (or 2 or 3 or 10), instead of beating yourself up, talk to yourself as if you were a dear friend: “It’s okay. Don’t worry about it. This isn’t worth beating yourself up over. You are a good person. The food you eat has nothing to do with your self-worth. You are worthy, and valuable, and gosh darn-it people like you!” Remember, you are SO much more than your eating disorder.

  • HALT: Are you Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? If it’s the holidays, you can probably say yes to all of these questions. Make sure you take a moment to “HALT” when feeling vulnerable to a binge:

    • Hungry? Eat a nutrient-dense snack like a fruit/veggie/or protein. If you’re still hungry, eat another. Wait 10 minutes, and ask yourself if you’re “belly hungry” again (Thank you to the group member who taught me that helpful phrase).

    • Angry? Turn the music up loud in your car and sing at the top of your lungs. Punch a pillow. Do 15 jumping jacks. Yell! Dance like crazy to “Monster Mash”. Release your anger in a way that does not involve pushing your anger down with food.

    • Lonely? Reach out for support. Text a friend. Facetime a family member. Call your therapist. Pet your dog. It’s a lot easier to successfully make it to the end of the holiday season with someone by your side to cheer you on.

    • Tired? REST! Yes, there are presents to wrap, greeting cards to send, and financial reports due by the end of the year, but you will not be able to complete these tasks and maintain your recovery unless you are taking time to rest. Your body and mind can only handle so much without time to reenergize.

  • Do Self-Care: When you’re taking care of yourself and feeling good, you are less vulnerable to bingeing or utilizing other self-harming behaviors. Make time and space for YOU this holiday season. Eat regularly throughout the day. Buy yourself a Christmas gift that brings you joy. Take yourself to a gentle yoga class. Make yourself a cup of warm apple cider. Nap by the fire. Walk through the fallen leaves. You deserve it.

And finally, remember that “normal” eating is flexible eating. You are not a good person for eating brussel sprouts, and you are not a bad person for eating pumpkin pie. All foods fit. It is normal to occasionally overeat, and if you do overeat, it does not mean that you need to punish yourself with restriction the next day. Eat breakfast like you normally would and continue holding your eating disorder recovery torch high.

This blog was originally published at https://www.medainc.org/4-tips-for-making-it-through-the-holidays-binge-free/ and is republished here with permission.